Let’s face it, we have all engaged in harmful, poisonous behavior at some point or another. Everyone is susceptible to toxic mood swings once in a while, but because many individuals are more enlightened, well-balanced, and conscious, these incidents tend to happen far less frequently in their life.
Your ability to identify when you’re acting poorly and deliberately change your mentality when required is essential for your long-term happiness and success, regardless of how frequently your toxic behavior occurs.
The top twelve harmful behaviors we observe are as follows:
Being envious of everyone else. – Don’t allow jealousy or envy rule your life. The art of envy is to focus on someone else’s blessings rather than your own. This behavior is neither admirable nor appealing. Therefore, avoid comparing your journey to that of others. It’s not a race; your journey is YOUR adventure. You have just yourself to contend with in this situation. You’re trying to outperform everyone else. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday if you want to gauge your improvement.
Taking everything too personally. – When someone feels like everything around them is a personal attack on them or somehow revolves around them, they are poisonous to be around. In reality, what other people say and do to you says considerably more about them than it does about you. People’s responses to you reveal their worldviews, scars, and experiences. Again, it depends more on them whether they think you’re the worst person ever or think you’re fantastic. I’m not advocating that we act narcissistically and disregard all criticism. I’m arguing that our tendency to take things personally is the root of a great deal of the pain, disappointment, and misery in our life. Most of the time, it’s more healthier and more productive to let go of other people’s opinions of you and follow your own knowledge and intuition instead.
Acting like you’re always a victim. – Constantly whining and feeling like a victim is another poisonous trait. A poisonous position that keeps you stuck is thinking of yourself as a victim with no control over your life’s course or any power to exert. I know we all have access to far more power, authority, and influence over our lives than we originally think because I work as a life coach with individuals who have had severe tragedy in their lives yet found the bravery to turn it all around. You’ll discover that you are more powerful than you imagined when you stop whining and refuse to perceive yourself as a powerless victim, but only if you decide to embrace this truth.
Hoarding pain and loss. – Whether it’s guilt, hate, love, or grief, letting go is one of life’s most difficult things to learn. Change is never simple; you have to battle to hold on and to let go. However, letting go is frequently the best course of action. It eliminates negative memories from the past. In order to get past the past and the anguish it causes you, you must emotionally separate yourself from the things that formerly held a lot of significance for you. Again, letting go and refocusing your thoughts are difficult, but they are worth every bit of effort you can generate.
Obsessive negative thinking. – When someone ruminates and complains nonstop about the awful things that may or have happened, the insults they’ve received, and the unfairness of life, it can be very difficult to be around them. These folks adamantly refuse to see the bright side of life and the great lessons that may be learned from what is taking place. Being pessimistic is one thing; maintaining a permanently pessimistic attitude is quite another. You may modify your distorted way of thinking and doing, which involves only perceiving the bad and acting as though everything is against you.
Lack of emotional self-control. – Anyone who is around you will notice if you can’t control your emotions. These folks, who lose control at the slightest setback or issue, are all too familiar to us. Getting angry with your daughter for spilling juice on the floor, yelling at the grocery store clerk for the lengthy queue, or yelling at a coworker over a minor mistake she made. You may require outside guidance to help you get control over your emotions and comprehend what is the source of your inner distress if you discover that you are too emotional and lose your temper at every opportunity. Beyond what meets the eye, there is more to it. An outside viewpoint and a different sort of support may be really beneficial.
Making superficial judgments about others. – Never just base your opinion of someone on their behavior. Remember that what you saw was frequently just what the individual decided to show you or what they felt compelled to show you as a result of their inner tension and sorrow. Unfortunately, when someone attempts to bring you little suffering, it’s typically because they are also experiencing great suffering. Simply put, their agony is overflowing. They require assistance, not punishment or mockery. Let them be if you can’t assist them.
Cruelty (or lacking empathy and compassion). – Cruelty is one of the most harmful behaviors that results from a complete lack of empathy, care, or compassion for others. Every day, in the media and online, we witness individuals being inhumanely cruel and hateful against others for no reason. They shamefully disparage others online while hiding behind their anonymity. Cruelty, scheming, and harming people for whatever cause are toxic, and they also hurt you. Stop in your tracks if you catch yourself backstabbing or putting someone else down. We’re all in this together, so dig deep, find compassion in your heart.
Cheating and cutting moral corners simply because you can. – Cheating is a decision, not an error, and it’s not justifiable! Do not assume that someone is a fool if you decide to cheat and are successful in defrauding them of something. Recognize that you were given much more trust than you ever merited by this individual. Become more than that. Don’t act unethically just because you can. Don’t deceive. Be sincere with both yourself and other people. Do what is right. Integrity is the cornerstone of all achievement.
Hiding your truth. – If you’re always attempting to conceal from yourself, no one can relate to you. And the moment people start to identify with your phony identity, this scenario turns into something genuinely poisonous. Remember that behind all of your superficial embellishments, each and every one of us is a pure, lovely human, regardless of our age, ethnicity, sex, or sexual orientation. Each of us has a purpose to fulfill and a light to shine. Celebrate being unique, off the beaten track, a little strange, and your own unique invention. Find a different river to swim in if you start to feel like a fish out of water. However, stay true to who you are and DON’T change. Improve yourself instead of denying yourself.
Needing constant validation. – Being with people who continually seek approval from others is draining. Unintentionally poisonous and draining people are those men and women who become consumed with the desire to continuously show their value to everyone around them. Recall this. Being too concerned with how things should appear to others can drain you and make everyone else around you unhappy. Your life has more significance than what you do in the perspective of the general public. It’s about your trip, your process, and your route — what you’re learning, how you’re assisting others in learning, and the maturing process you give yourself permission to engage in.
Being a stubborn perfectionist. – Humans frequently seek towards idealized, stagnant levels of perfection. When looking for the ideal home, career, friend, or lover, we do this. Of course, the issue is that perfection does not exist in a state of static existence. Considering that life is a continuous adventure that is always developing and changing. The perfect house, job, companion, or lover won’t last forever; what is here now won’t be precisely the same tomorrow. But with a little time and an open mind, that shoddy dwelling transforms into a welcoming home. That unsatisfactory work develops into a lucrative career. That flawed friend develops into a reliable support system. And that flawed sweetheart develops into a dependable lifetime friend. Simply letting up of perfectionism will do.