With one slip of the thumb, the girl you’ve been trying to impress will delete you from her phone contacts before you can even install Bumble.
Look, if you don’t like texting, you’re the odd one out. Yes, in-person talks will always be preferred, but texting has advantages as well.
You should think of text messaging as an open field full of explosives. Unaware that you are approaching potentially hazardous region, you abruptly lose a limb. Or far worse—a girlfriend.
Here are 15 messages you should never send to a lady, ever, to help you avoid that circumstance.
It also goes without saying that “we need to talk,” “I’ve been meaning to tell you” and “So, I went to the doctor” should never be typed into a text either. But I assume you already knew that.
15 Texts You Should Never Send To A Woman
Given all of this, it should not come as a shock that women DO JUDGE you based on the way you text.
Never considered texting to be so serious? You should now, though. Here are 15 texts you should never send to a woman to help you with messaging.
1. “Why Aren’t You Answering Me?!”
(The Aggressive Text)
Women use their phones to entertain themselves on a far larger scale than do males.
There are three likely explanations for a woman’s failure to reply to a text:
- She’s busy — in which case she will react as soon as she has time.
- She forgot — in that situation, she will reply as soon as she remembers you.
- She doesn’t want to — in which case, well, you’ve probably done something wrong.
Whichever one it is, texting her something like this is the worst thing you could do:
When men are in a panic and believe a lady is ignoring them or losing interest, they send this SMS. Whether or not that is the case, asking for an explanation almost always makes things worse.
An immediate response is not guaranteed because women regard texting as informal socializing. It is always preferable to call them directly if you need to discuss something crucial.
2. “Who’s That Guy?!”
(The Jealous Text)
This SMS is frequently sent when a guy sees a lady he likes with another man, but he doesn’t know who that man is or how close they are.
However, the scenario is actually as follows;
- If you are familiar with her, she would have mentioned him if he were a significant person in her life.
- If you don’t know her well, it’s probably none of your business — if it was she would tell you.
There’s no point in sticking your nose into it.
When a question would naturally have an answer, why ask for it?
If you’re genuinely inquisitive about it and want to ask about it, either do it in person or leave it out of the conversation.
It would be much better to say something like, “I spotted you with someone and I didn’t want to trouble you,” which is a nice invitation for her to clarify who he was and what they were up to.
3. “Think I’ll Go To Bed Early Today…”
(The “White” Lies)
Over time, little white falsehoods that men frequently tell to impress a lady might add up.
She could think you’re cool at the time, but those lies will eventually come to light, making everything you say and do after that point appear dishonest.
Additionally, if she discovers that you have been lying in a text message, she even has the screenshots to prove it.
In fact, you should never lie, whether it be verbally or through text.
4. “Where Do You Want To Go?”
(The Indecisive Text)
It is a truth, gentlemen, that men start more than 90% of first dates.
When a woman accepts their invitation to go out, many guys immediately inquire, “What do you want to do/where do you want to go?”
While women view this as being just lazy, males believe it is fine since they let the woman make the decision and believe she will enjoy it.
When a woman sees a text like this, the first thought that comes to her mind is, “How should I know, you’re the one who asked me out…”. It implies that the date was not chosen with imagination or consideration.
If you want to go on a simple drink or coffee date, be sure to choose a location that is convenient for both of you. Before asking a woman out, be sure you are aware of her hobbies and can find something you both enjoy.
5. “Please, Give Me Another Chance…”
(The Pleading Text)
If you find yourself in a scenario where you feel like sending this kind of SMS, it’s likely that you messed up so terribly that no amount of temporary reparation will make up for it.
Furthermore, when you beg for something, it gives the other person control over you.
In essence, you’re telling them that THEY decide A fate rather than the fact that both people in your relationship make decisions.
Texts like these come across as clinging and give the impression that you have no choice but to resort to begging.
In the best instance, the woman will simply disregard them. But in the worst scenario, she might feel as though she has the right to abuse the power shift you have granted her and spit in your face.
Even if it takes time, owning up to your mistakes and genuinely attempting to repair them can yield rewards.
6. “Hey, What’s Up?”
(The Everyday, Boring Text)
It’s boring to send a text like this out of the blue with no intention to follow it up with a story or have a real conversation.
Most women claim that they receive them from men on a daily basis.
These texts are unoriginal, the conversations feel forced, and they frequently end quickly, which means the woman won’t invest any time in them because historically they haven’t shown to be of any benefit to her.
These senders give off the impression that they have nothing to say and are merely pleading for her attention.
Make sure you have something to say if you’re going to text.
7. “What Do You Do? Where Do You Live?”
(The Rapid Fire Questions)
When a male perceives a woman as being inattentive or when he lacks the skills to make texting amusing, he may attempt to word every text as a question, believing that “She has to react immediately.”
However, women find these SMS annoying since they sound like they are being questioned in addition to the fact that many males send them.
Conversations lose their enjoyable element when participants sense that they are being interviewed or screened because they feel under pressure to respond.
Because of this strain, comments frequently amount to one sentence or just a list of facts. Or, even worse, you come up with totally dishonest replies.
For instance, texting “what do you do for a living?” is acceptable and demonstrates interest, but when you ask her a follow-up question rather than allowing her to elaborate, the text transitions from “conversation” to “Q&A time.”
8. “Just Checking Up On You…”
(The Insecure Text)
What should you do as it seems like a very long time since you last heard from her?
Texts that inquire about a woman’s whereabouts and actions are among the texts you should never send to her.
Checking in on her to make sure everything is good is acceptable, but being needy and possessive will always turn her off. No matter how serious your relationship may be, she still has a life outside of yours.
She will either stop talking to you or start openly lying to you if you press her too hard. Even worse, you risk scaring her by giving her the impression that you’ll unexpectedly drop by or that you might be watching her.
9. “I Want You To Have My Babies!”
(The Overwhelming, Emotional Text)
Even if she might be touched by your feelings for her, sending an overly emotional SMS puts too much pressure on her to reply.
The response, “do I like him back, do I agree or disagree,” needs emotional consideration, and it’s risky since you don’t know what frame of mind she’s in right now.
For instance, if she was having a horrible day, she might have contacted you to escape the situation. Then, all of a sudden, she receives a text asking her to express her feelings.
She can choose to ignore the talk moving forward to prevent an escalation of the conflict if she doesn’t share her sentiments.
If she shares your sentiments, she might try to hold back until you two meet up in order to save it for the right occasion. This could be taken to mean that she is ignoring you.
Otherwise, it will put a lot of pressure on you the next time you meet if she immediately replies with something like “me too.”
10. “Sorry, Sorry, So Sorry…”
(The Forced Apology Text)
It is unpleasant and obnoxious to drag out an apology after she has already forgiven you.
Most women are accustomed to the weak “I want to make it up to you” reaction that usually follows a text like that.
The text typically exaggerates the situation on purpose so the man can pay an excessive or unwarranted compensation for his error.
Women are aware of and hate the approach of using an apology to ask a lady out since they know you’re just exploiting sympathy to get her to go out with you.
If you truly want to apologize to her, start by finding out what you can do to make things right:
- You: “Do you need anything to make up for the fact that I was unable to attend your birthday celebration?”
- Her: “YES! Come over tomorrow for some leftover cake.”
See? Easy…
11. “Are You Sure, Though?”
(The Seeking Approval Text)
Avoid sending her overt requests for permission to carry out essential tasks or decisions that you should be more than capable of making on your own.
As long as you do it politely and give her enough time to make her own changes, she won’t hate you if you decide to cancel plans or exclude her from them. Then you could suggest that you meet her again later.
Women believe that one of the worst qualities a man may possess is a constant need for affirmation from others and an excessive reliance on their judgment.
Women appreciate men who are determined and accept responsibility. These men also have stronger skin than other men and can accept “no” as an answer.
12. “I’m Bored”
(The Entertain Me Text)
By sending a text like this, you portray yourself as a lifeless individual with few positive traits.
Because it gives the impression that you don’t respect your time and depend on others to fill your day, this makes you undesirable to women.
He’s a huge bore is at the top of many women’s lists of reasons why someone made a terrible impression.
She’s not here to amuse you, that much is true. What sort of catch are you going to be to her if you can’t even keep yourself entertained?
13. “Good Morning, Sunshine.”
(The Fake Nice Text)
It just doesn’t work in a relationship to text “good morning” too soon. Many men do it in an effort to catch a woman’s eye first thing in the morning.
Women find it useless since it appears that you are trying too hard. Even if the individual really is quite pleasant, it will probably be perceived as being false.
She has little to follow up on because she typically uses her mornings for job or school-related activities.
She may still be exhausted and probably won’t have time to converse, which increases the likelihood that she will forget to reply or will provide a response that neither of you will be satisfied with.
14. “Like What You See?”
(The Bragging Selfie)
The sixth item on our list, sending a selfie without explanation, falls into the same category.
This is because you don’t give her a reason to say anything more than a few brief words in response. If you look excellent in the photo, the best you can expect for is a “love eye” emoji.
Even if you do appear attractive, you could still come across as a showoff.
It’s horrible to send women pointless selfies since, if she’s interested in you, she’ll already be browsing your social media pages, which are probably loaded with pictures.
Send a picture if you have something to show her, but be sure to make it clear what you’re trying to convey:
- You: “Take a look at what I wore today!”
- Her: “What is the event?”
- You: “Nothing, just thought I’d change it up and wear a suit!”
- Her: “Looks nice!”
15. “K”
(The One Word Response)
Everybody has experienced situations where they share something interesting and wait for a response, only to hear a basic “alright” or “k” from the other person.
It gives us the impression that the other person was either not paying attention or was simply waiting for us to complete speaking before moving on.
It would be much preferable to say something like, “Thanks for letting me know, chat soon” if your goal is to end the conversation with a single word.
This communicates to the other party that you valued their efforts during the contact and that you anticipate there will be more of it in the future — just not right now.
Remember that it will be ideal for you to avoid using special characters or abbreviations like R for “are” or U for “you.”
Deciphering a text message with emojis and filler words is incredibly unpleasant.
Therefore, pay attention to your grammar; it is preferable to make that modest effort than to run the danger of coming off as inattentive or lazy.