Valentine’s Day may feel like someone is shouting “attention, attention, you are alone” into your ear if you are already feeling lonely. You do not have a neighbor there. Your jacket is that.
Romance, ah. Exactly what everyone needs, no? Wrong. If you’re single, whether by choice or circumstance, the Valentine’s Day marketing machine and the hunt for social approval may make “Singles Awareness Day” depressing or even cruel. When you’re inundated with love films on TV, flowers, romance books, adorable heart-shaped trinkets in the stores, and never-ending drippy commercials and event announcements, it’s difficult to see what else life has to offer.
Be at ease. On Valentine’s Day, being single might bring you joy. If it’s not the right time for you to get married, don’t feel pressured to do so; instead, enjoy the relationship as it is.
How To Be Happy Being Single On Valentine’s Day
1. Get some perspective
If Valentine’s Day makes you feel lonely and makes you remember that you’re “only” single, it could be comforting to know that many other single people also celebrate Valentine’s Day.
- While some of them could be experiencing the same level of gloom as you, others are undoubtedly laughing at how worthless Valentine’s Day is or not even bothering to acknowledge it. There are also many couples who, while being in love, avoid celebrating Valentine’s Day as much as possible because they despise the pressure to buy presents and observe the holiday routinely and find its commercialization offensive.
- It could be a little simpler to quit sniffling into your handkerchief once you keep this perspective in mind.
- Remind yourself that Valentine’s Day advantages are felt at the cash registers of florists, candy shops, gift shops, and restaurants that offer romantic dinners for two.
2. Love your singleness
Consider all the wonderful advantages of being alone, such as not having to contend with others for the TV remote control and having the freedom to maintain your home as neatly or unkempt as you see suitable. Don’t believe the hype that everyone is happily coupled off because of the “couples” marketing since it doesn’t fully reflect how individuals choose to spend their lives. There are many extremely content single individuals, but it’s simply not in style right now to discuss how happy single people are in the media or in politics.
- List all the benefits of being single in writing. For instance, having more free time, not having to make sacrifices at home, having less obligations, etc. And consider how some of those positive qualities would disappear in a partnership. Instead than focusing on the negatives, consider the positives.
- If someone opt to rub your “On Valentine’s Day, when someone shoves “I adore being singleness” in your face, be courageous and respond with compassion. I am free to live how I want to without having to give up control over my food or even my bed.” Additionally, you could want to highlight that data show that half of the population is single, with 51% of women, for instance, living alone.
3. Be happy within yourself regardless of your relationship status
Romantic stories sometimes imply that a partner may complete you. Phrases like “my better half,” “I was half the person without you,” and “our two hearts beat as one” are frequently claimed without any thought given to their true meaning. This unhealthy outlook may lead to co-dependence, loss of independence, and losing oneself in another person if it is taken too literally.
That’s not exactly romantic. Do partnerships guarantee eternal happiness? For a sizable portion of the population, divorce statistics and tales of miserable marriages appear to prove the opposite. Keep in mind that being single doesn’t need you to change who you are or give up your freedom or your routine.
Instead of feeling depressed on Valentine’s Day, focus on your accomplishments and qualities, which demonstrate that you are a whole and healthy person who has room for love should it arise but who does not require a romantic connection to foster feelings of pleasure and confidence.
4. Avoid being swept away by the tide
Although patience may need to be your current virtue, you may be a romantic and wish for your “soul mate” someday. There are many Valentine’s Days in a person’s lifetime, just as there are many potential partners you may end up falling in love with.
Being single on Valentine’s Day might be challenging at times because of the overwhelming amount of messages urging you to act quickly or risk missing the relationship. If that were the case, senior love would not be feasible, and that is just not the case. No of a person’s age, relationships often begin at any point in their lives. Love the life you are experiencing right now and stop living for love in the meantime.
- Keep in mind what might happen to those who hurry into love and marriage before knowing who they are. The relationship may suffer as a result of one partner eventually realizing they need to “find themselves.”
- No one finds diapers romantic. Never-ending sleepless nights are not romantic. Enjoy this one moment now or for as long as you plan it to last; don’t hurry into anything before you’re totally ready to commit.
5. Treat yourself
If you find yourself swooning over the box of heart-shaped chocolates while in line to pay for your routine everyday groceries or falling for the doe-eyed plush bear holding a heart while wishing someone would send you one of those soppy cards, reward yourself rather than beating yourself up.
Give in if you really want that lovely bear to sleep on your bed. Or even better, spend a little more money on something you truly want, like a new coffee plunger, a six-pack of European beers, a bottle of perfume, or a current book by one of your favorite authors. Don’t let pain and grief dominate this day. Make love the focus, even while you’re single!
- Try something opulent, like spending the entire day at a spa or taking a sightseeing flight over your city. If you feel awkward doing this alone, bring some pals.
- Not too decadent. For now, put your problems aside, but don’t let them get worse. If you know you won’t worry more about how to cut costs because you spent too much on an indulgence like a giant box of specialty chocolates, or how to lose weight quickly because they were too tasty to stop eating, you’ll enjoy yourself more both now and in the future.
6. Find out what’s happening in the singles scene
You may celebrate Valentine’s Day solitary by attending one of the many pubs that host singles events. But don’t go expecting to find love; just go to have a good time and meet some new folks to chat with and drink cocktails with. This isn’t about becoming lonely and falling for someone!
7. Think of the money you’re saving
The extremely sentimental individual could respond “But can love really be valued at all? It is inestimable!” That kind of thinking can make you live a life of excess without considering the necessity of confirming relationships with words and acts rather than with pricey mementos of affection. Diamonds are pricey and not very helpful in terms of relationship advice.
8. Love your exercise
If love has you in its grasp, do some good ol’ fashioned exercise to shake it off like you would the blues. You could find that going for a jog in the park, skating on the ice, or taking a dip in the pool can help you fight your more instinctual impulses.
9. Consider the day after Valentine’s Day
Will all those couples keep teasing one other with sweet nothings, surprise each other with candlelight meals and journeys down memory lane? We can only hope so.
Reality, however, says differently, and whether single or not, we may all develop the bad habit of failing to recognize the important individuals in our lives. Why not use Valentine’s Day a prompt to tell people how much they mean to you during the rest of the year. That will demonstrate to your couples that love is universal.