Healthy relationships are lovely. a relationship where you can completely be yourself around them and you both cheer one other on. It is tranquil and comforting. Although it’s sometimes tough to know who is for you or against you, friendships may go south if you have false individuals in your life who claim to adore you. Here’s how to distinguish between genuine friends and false friends if you’re at that point right now.
1. FAKE FRIENDS ARE NEVER AVAILABLE WHEN YOU NEED THEM THE MOST.
When things are good, they are always there, but when things are bad, they go, leaving you to deal with your problems on your own. They never provide a sympathetic ear. They shouldn’t have access to your weakness since they could later use it against you. Therefore, if you’re always hesitant to confide in someone you’re supposed to be close to, it’s likely that you’re dealing with a phony friend.
2. FAKE FRIENDS DON’T HOLD YOU ACCOUNTABLE.
Of course, no one is flawless. Each of us has weaknesses that we may attempt to overcome. False friends never tell you the truth about your shortcomings; instead, they use flattery to hide them. Even if you have a significant ego problem and need therapy, people will still tell you that you are great. When a relationship ends, you’re told, “OMG, you’re great and he doesn’t deserve you!” despite your responsibility. Don’t get me wrong, your friends should boost your confidence and make you feel good about yourself, but lying to you raises the suspicion that there may be other factors at play. It’s like false buddies who want to rule the world don’t want to see you become a better version of yourself.
3. FAKE FRIENDS ARE NEVER SUPPORTIVE.
While sincere friends would go to great lengths to help you succeed, phony friends will sit back and wish you would crash to the bottom. They may have chosen to purchase a comparable item from another vendor while you were attempting to launch your own Etsy shop because “they didn’t aware you offered that.” Of course they were aware. They did that on purpose to put you on a lower level.
4. FAKE FRIENDS ARE CLOSE-FISTED.
A genuine buddy enjoys sharing. not only material items but also their knowledge, focus, and attention. On the other hand, fake friends will continue to steal without ever stopping. They have a bizarre entitlement attitude that justifies always expecting something from you but never contributing anything, no matter how small.
5. FAKE FRIENDS COMPETE ENDLESSLY WITH YOU.
You are seen as a challenge to be conquered by a false buddy. They may do anything to undermine you since you are just another participant in the race of life. They want your house, vehicle, spouse, children, clothing, and shoes. Maybe there are difficulties with insecurity or poor self-esteem. But isn’t it just one more excuse not to interact with someone like them? They’ll do everything to get your possessions, and it’s poisonous!
6. FAKE FRIENDS ARE ALWAYS JEALOUS OF YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS.
It’s common to want to phone your buddies when you obtain that job advancement. Do you, however, pause for a second to consider a member of the group who could be… uninterested in the good news? A phony buddy, that. They detest hearing you brag about your accomplishments and are very competitive with you in every way. It’s as though two individuals couldn’t possibly succeed together!
7. FAKE FRIENDS ALWAYS SPEAK ILL ABOUT YOU BEHIND YOUR BACK.
When you are among them, they are charming, warm, and nice, but as soon as you leave the room, they switch and start making up all kinds of falsehoods, gossiping about you, and putting you down. It seems very obvious that they want other people to have the same negative opinions of you that they have.
8. FAKE FRIENDS NEVER KEEP SECRETS.
Tell a phony buddy if you want the whole city to know about your relationship issues. They will tell everyone who would listen about it. They could care less about how you feel. You are nothing more to them than fodder for rumors.
How to deal with fake friends
The worst thing about false friends is how little support you really get from them. “A true relationship comprises support, loyalty, and closeness—three qualities you cannot find in a phony friend,” says Tiana Leeds, M.A.. In the end, after performing all the work, you get nothing. How then do you handle phony friends?
9. KEEP A HEALTHY DISTANCE FROM THEM.
Not everyone can be your buddy forever. One of the hard lessons I had to learn the hard way was that. Learn to avoid bogus friends as soon as you see them because if you do, their negativity will pull you down.
10. CONFRONTATION MIGHT HELP STRENGTHEN THE RELATIONSHIP.
There are occasions when a phony friend has nice qualities and there may only be a serious problem that can be resolved by open dialogue. Despite the unhealthy rivalry they may be in with you, they are always there for you when you need them. In such situations, rather of immediately throwing them out, engage them in dialogue and explain how their actions are impacting you. Maybe they’ll reflect on their actions and make some changes.
11. NEVER SHARE YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS OR GOALS WITH A FAKE FRIEND.
If you’re anything like me, it could be difficult for you to keep your good news to yourself, but it’s crucial to do so when your group is made up of phony acquaintances. Do not brag about your successes or divulge private information in front of them.
12. BE ON ALERT WHENEVER YOU’RE WITH A FAKE FRIEND.
Make sure you don’t let down your guard and completely believe them if you’re still considering having a phony friend around, possibly due to one of their positive traits. For instance, watch them when you go out and have fun at the game evenings. I once discovered a girlfriend putting drugs in my drink while we watched a movie. That night, anything might have happened to me if I hadn’t been on guard and aware.
13. IF POSSIBLE, CUT THEM OUT ALTOGETHER.
False pals actually have no place in your life. They could be good in some aspects, but their drawbacks make it unwise to have them around and constantly worry about what you say and do around them as well as how they behave around you. Remove them from your life if you can, then move on.
It’s fantastic that you invest a lot of time and energy into your social life, but keep in mind that having one loyal friend who always has your back is preferable to having a large number of phony friends who are just there for the good times and who would like to see you fail. I really hope you have the strength to let go of these phony relationships and make investments in stronger ones.