How to deal with fake friends
The worst thing about false friends is how little support you really get from them. “A true relationship comprises support, loyalty, and closeness—three qualities you cannot find in a phony friend,” says Tiana Leeds, M.A.. In the end, after performing all the work, you get nothing. How then do you handle phony friends?
9. KEEP A HEALTHY DISTANCE FROM THEM.
Not everyone can be your buddy forever. One of the hard lessons I had to learn the hard way was that. Learn to avoid bogus friends as soon as you see them because if you do, their negativity will pull you down.
10. CONFRONTATION MIGHT HELP STRENGTHEN THE RELATIONSHIP.
There are occasions when a phony friend has nice qualities and there may only be a serious problem that can be resolved by open dialogue. Despite the unhealthy rivalry they may be in with you, they are always there for you when you need them. In such situations, rather of immediately throwing them out, engage them in dialogue and explain how their actions are impacting you. Maybe they’ll reflect on their actions and make some changes.
11. NEVER SHARE YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS OR GOALS WITH A FAKE FRIEND.
If you’re anything like me, it could be difficult for you to keep your good news to yourself, but it’s crucial to do so when your group is made up of phony acquaintances. Do not brag about your successes or divulge private information in front of them.
12. BE ON ALERT WHENEVER YOU’RE WITH A FAKE FRIEND.
Make sure you don’t let down your guard and completely believe them if you’re still considering having a phony friend around, possibly due to one of their positive traits. For instance, watch them when you go out and have fun at the game evenings. I once discovered a girlfriend putting drugs in my drink while we watched a movie. That night, anything might have happened to me if I hadn’t been on guard and aware.
13. IF POSSIBLE, CUT THEM OUT ALTOGETHER.
False pals actually have no place in your life. They could be good in some aspects, but their drawbacks make it unwise to have them around and constantly worry about what you say and do around them as well as how they behave around you. Remove them from your life if you can, then move on.
It’s fantastic that you invest a lot of time and energy into your social life, but keep in mind that having one loyal friend who always has your back is preferable to having a large number of phony friends who are just there for the good times and who would like to see you fail. I really hope you have the strength to let go of these phony relationships and make investments in stronger ones.