Let’s face it, we have all engaged in harmful, poisonous behavior at some point or another. Everyone is susceptible to toxic mood swings once in a while, but because many individuals are more enlightened, well-balanced, and conscious, these incidents tend to happen far less frequently in their life.
Your ability to identify when you’re acting poorly and deliberately change your mentality when required is essential for your long-term happiness and success, regardless of how frequently your toxic behavior occurs.
The top twelve harmful behaviors we observe are as follows:
Being envious of everyone else. – Don’t allow jealousy or envy rule your life. The art of envy is to focus on someone else’s blessings rather than your own. This behavior is neither admirable nor appealing. Therefore, avoid comparing your journey to that of others. It’s not a race; your journey is YOUR adventure. You have just yourself to contend with in this situation. You’re trying to outperform everyone else. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday if you want to gauge your improvement.
Taking everything too personally. – When someone feels like everything around them is a personal attack on them or somehow revolves around them, they are poisonous to be around. In reality, what other people say and do to you says considerably more about them than it does about you. People’s responses to you reveal their worldviews, scars, and experiences. Again, it depends more on them whether they think you’re the worst person ever or think you’re fantastic. I’m not advocating that we act narcissistically and disregard all criticism. I’m arguing that our tendency to take things personally is the root of a great deal of the pain, disappointment, and misery in our life. Most of the time, it’s more healthier and more productive to let go of other people’s opinions of you and follow your own knowledge and intuition instead.
Acting like you’re always a victim. – Constantly whining and feeling like a victim is another poisonous trait. A poisonous position that keeps you stuck is thinking of yourself as a victim with no control over your life’s course or any power to exert. I know we all have access to far more power, authority, and influence over our lives than we originally think because I work as a life coach with individuals who have had severe tragedy in their lives yet found the bravery to turn it all around. You’ll discover that you are more powerful than you imagined when you stop whining and refuse to perceive yourself as a powerless victim, but only if you decide to embrace this truth.
Hoarding pain and loss. – Whether it’s guilt, hate, love, or grief, letting go is one of life’s most difficult things to learn. Change is never simple; you have to battle to hold on and to let go. However, letting go is frequently the best course of action. It eliminates negative memories from the past. In order to get past the past and the anguish it causes you, you must emotionally separate yourself from the things that formerly held a lot of significance for you. Again, letting go and refocusing your thoughts are difficult, but they are worth every bit of effort you can generate.
Obsessive negative thinking. – When someone ruminates and complains nonstop about the awful things that may or have happened, the insults they’ve received, and the unfairness of life, it can be very difficult to be around them. These folks adamantly refuse to see the bright side of life and the great lessons that may be learned from what is taking place. Being pessimistic is one thing; maintaining a permanently pessimistic attitude is quite another. You may modify your distorted way of thinking and doing, which involves only perceiving the bad and acting as though everything is against you.
Lack of emotional self-control. – Anyone who is around you will notice if you can’t control your emotions. These folks, who lose control at the slightest setback or issue, are all too familiar to us. Getting angry with your daughter for spilling juice on the floor, yelling at the grocery store clerk for the lengthy queue, or yelling at a coworker over a minor mistake she made. You may require outside guidance to help you get control over your emotions and comprehend what is the source of your inner distress if you discover that you are too emotional and lose your temper at every opportunity. Beyond what meets the eye, there is more to it. An outside viewpoint and a different sort of support may be really beneficial.