10. You’ve Disappointed Me
Disappointment is a really valid emotion, yet just the word itself can be so traumatic. Because they are repeatedly told this throughout their lives, many people actually believe this to be true as they grow up.
Try expressing your displeasure with your conduct by saying: “In the future, kindly refrain from doing […].”
11. Please Don’t Bother Me, Leave Me Alone
Being a parent is hard job. And occasionally having some child-free time to relax and spend as one pleases can work wonders for a parent’s ability to refuel and get back to it. However, if a parent consistently ignores their children’s cries for help by saying, “Leave me alone,” or “I’m busy,” eventually children will internalize the message and give up.
Then, parents will receive everything they asked for, and their kids will soon start to believe that they are always unavailable. Children may be less likely to turn to their parents for assistance in the future, which could establish a harmful pattern.
Kids need to realize that their parents need alone time, but it’s also crucial that they believe their parents are approachable. Consider giving children a heads-up if a crucial deadline is approaching by saying something like, “Mommy has to work for the next hour. We’ll play a game together after I’m done.” But keep your expectations in check; a child’s ability to amuse itself will last less time the younger they are.
12. You Had Better Do As I Say… Or Else!
If not, what? For good reason, that is the normal, flippant reaction you can anticipate from a child.
This surely sounds more menacing than anything else. To discipline children with fear is unhealthy and frequently ineffective. Simply stating your request’s justification will encourage compliance.
Try substituting, “Please do because,” instead. Knowing the purpose of the request is important. So spend the extra time to explain to your youngster why they should do things. If they comprehend, they are much more likely to obey.
13. You Live Beneath My Roof, Thus You Must Abide By My Rules
One more thing that plenty of parents enjoy saying. Very close to “you’re just living in my house; this is my home,” Both of these phrases make your youngster feel out of place in their own homes and almost like a burden.
Try saying, “You know the home rules”, instead. “Please follow them.”
