10. Treating as an Object
The victim is used as a tool by the manipulator for their own ends. This might be done for sexual purposes or just to harm and ruin for their own satisfaction.
The intention is to reduce the victim to the status of an object, as though the victim’s feelings and experiences are unimportant. Long enough will cause the sufferer to experience the same feelings about themselves.
11. Silent Treatment
The manipulator shuts off communication and imposes punishment through emotional and/or physical withdrawal.
This is meant to express scorn and the idea that the target of the manipulation is not deserving of the manipulator’s recognition. The intention is to make the victim helpless to alter the current circumstance and to elicit feelings of rejection or abandonment.
The victim may start to feel emotionally neglected if the manipulator withholds their love and attention.
12. Repeating to Make You Believe
This involves continuously using a term or phrase to divert attention from the topic at hand.
The idea is that if something is repeated enough times, eventually people will learn to believe it. It’s also a tactic for ignoring what someone else is saying by talking over them, using cliches, or showing little interest in continuing the conversation.
13. Playing the Victim Role
Despite the fact that you are the victim, the narcissist will make everything about them instead of you. The narc may respond with something like, “See? I told you it felt like you were talking to a brick wall when you tried to get through to them. I just can’t seem to connect with you.
The purpose of this manipulation technique is to arouse sympathy, sympathy, or compassion in order to escape responsibility for wrongdoing or even to secure assistance and collaboration from unwary outsiders.
14. Minimization
The deceiver claims that their actions aren’t actually as destructive or reckless as another person could be alleging. He who is without guilt among you, let him be the first to cast a stone, or similar logic may be used to minimize the action by comparing it to others.
Making a mountain out of a molehill enables the manipulator to continue their abusive actions or, at the very least, to absolve themselves of much of the blame.
