Talk About The Past
On the other hand, there is a wealth of interesting stories to be found in the past. As a result, even though you’ve probably covered the fundamentals, attempt to go deeper by disclosing childhood secrets or reciting old family tales.
Anjani Amladi, MD, a board-certified adult psychiatrist, says: “You may find things you never knew before, like their favorite game to play, favorite destination to visit, and even convert it into a surprise vacation or fun date night.”
Play The Question Game
Have you ever engaged in a game of questions? It’s easy since all that’s required is for each person to ask another inquiry. Dan Munro, a relationship and confidence coach, tells Bustle that there are a few twists.
To draw the genuine truths out of someone, he advises, “you must first ask deep and dark inquiries.” “Second, be as truthful as you can in your response. It is similar to truth or dare, but without the dare element.”
Of course, if that’s what you like to do, it’s OK to refuse and keep secrets to yourself. Nobody ever said that just because you’re in a relationship, you have to be completely transparent. But if you can trust each other enough to share a few secrets, this game will help you grow closer to one another.
Tell Each Other Exactly How You Feel
Munro believes it’s frequently a sign you’re holding your cards too close to your chest and not allowing each other in if you can’t get rid of the persistent sense that you’ve “run out of things to say.” So, go on and start living.
Ask your spouse how they are feeling right now. What aspects of your relationship would they wish to improve? What irritates them? Your relationship will feel better the more open and honest you are.
Share Random Thoughts
In a similar spirit, think about expressing “strange” ideas and feelings, even if they don’t seem like they should be discussed. The “noise within your skull,” as Munro puts it, may be extremely entertaining. You can never run out of things to say since it’s constantly changing.
Naturally, this does not include speaking carelessly or conversing only for the sake of conversing. Instead, you should use your inner dialogue—your daydreams, ideas, worries, etc.—as a source of inspiration. Bring everything out front and watch where the conversation goes.
Talk About Physical Intimacy
To make sure you two are content and on the same page, you should talk about this subject frequently. But it’s also entertaining to talk about your fantasies, particularly if you’ve never done so.
How is your love life, then? Are you both happy? Want to give something new a shot? These kinds of inquiries might start a positive conversation that you’ve probably never had before, even if it may seem odd at first.
